David’s Divorce Dictionary: F is for Feelings
Definition: Feelings are emotional engines that can propel clients down rocky and dangerous dead-end roads.
When I told her of my separation after 24 years of marriage, my rabbi cautioned me that “for the next year your emotions are going to be an out-of-body experience.” She was right. In divorce, feelings take on a life of their own. They rise, they fall, they burst out, they whirl furiously, they paralyze, they compel, and they trespass everywhere.
Divorce professionals must work with, around and through their clients’ feelings. Intense feelings can be deafening. We must remember that the advice we give and the information we provide may not be well-heard when a client’s emotions are running high.
What feelings must we recognize and help clients overcome? Here’s a partial list: